Good morning everyone. It has been a rough 10 days here for my family since my 31 year old niece lost her battle with cancer. We have been busy doing family things, attending memorial services, etc. She was loved & will be missed.
Daily Topic: Today’s topic deals with men and physical/medical pain. When my husband gets sick…he rarely complains. He will suffer and suffer, sometimes in silence without letting me know because he doesn’t want to worry me.
For the past few days I sensed something was wrong with Hubby but wasn’t sure what it was. I thought perhaps the passing of my niece had him all shook up…it did, but that wasn’t his problem. Apparently a few days ago when he was working on a remodeling project he felt his shoulder snap and was instantly in terrible pain. He was popping Tylenol and told me it was for a headache. I knew that wasn’t true but wasn’t sure what was wrong with him.
Finally at 11pm last night he started crying and trust me, he is NO crier! I think I have seen him cry 5 times in the 30 years I have been with this man. He then spilled the beans about this severe pain in his shoulder. I got him dressed, into the car & off to the ER we went. We spent all night there…he has a torn rotator cuff in his shoulder. The ER doc was amazed that he tolerated this severe pain for 4 days before he couldn’t take it anymore. We now have an appt. with my ortho surgeon for early next week & hubbs is on some heavy duty meds until he can get in to see him.
So basically…Does your man try to be “tough” and hide physical pain from you or is he open about it? I knew when I saw him crying in pain last night that it was bad…BAD because he is not a complainer or a crier.
It is scary that this happened and he did not tell you. I hope that they will be able to get him fixed up quickly. Prayers for you guys
I am so sorry about your niece. It is a terrible thing to die so young.
Yes, men tend to feel like they have to be strong and to avoid seeking help. My husband fell a few weeks ago and dislocated his finger. He wanted me to just “pop it back in” and to go on with his day. I made him go to the ER and it was indeed dislocated, but also with chip fractures at the base of the bone and he has been going to physical therapy ever since, still cannot bend it all the way.
Prayers continue for you and your family. I am so sorry for all that you have gone through. It must have been very scary to see your husband crying last night. My husband is that way. He is even worse about regular check ups. Why go if not sick? He is getting better since my daughter being ill we have to make sure we don’t bring anything home, but yes, he believes he is superman and still 30. Sure, he can move the bed/pool cover/ fence…by himself. He just takes some ibuprofen and will be fine. It’s scary, but a good thing your husband has a loving wife by his side.
Thanks Sherrie. It scared the poop out of me. He is my rock, the person who takes care of me. I get petrified when he gets sick or injured because I rely on him so much. I have been pampering him today and while I was out working…I had 2 gals here pampering him my absence.
I know some men who are total “babies” and then others who are “he-men”. It seems like they go one way or the other with it.
Glad he is taken care of so you can do some things, too. Don’t forget to take care of yourself.
Some guys do some of both. Macho, macho, macho, but once they decide they are sick, you have to baby them and do everything.
I am so sorry for your loss. She was so young! My son is her age, and I would be torn to pieces if he died at this age. I will say some prayers for you and your family. It is so true about men not telling others about their physical pain. My brother fell and hit his head and was walking around with a subdural hematoma for a month in pain before going to the ER. Listen fellas pain is dangerous and we need to make sure to get our loved ones to the doctor asap! I am glad your husband got help!!