Men and Physical Pain

Good morning everyone. It has been a rough 10 days here for my family since my 31 year old niece lost her battle with cancer. We have been busy doing family things, attending memorial services, etc. She was loved & will be missed.

Daily Topic: Today’s topic deals with men and physical/medical pain. When my husband gets sick…he rarely complains. He will suffer and suffer, sometimes in silence without letting me know because he doesn’t want to worry me.

For the past few days I sensed something was wrong with Hubby but wasn’t sure what it was. I thought perhaps the passing of my niece had him all shook up…it did, but that wasn’t his problem. Apparently a few days ago when he was working on a remodeling project he felt his shoulder snap and was instantly in terrible pain. He was popping Tylenol and told me it was for a headache. I knew that wasn’t true but wasn’t sure what was wrong with him.

Finally at 11pm last night he started crying and trust me, he is NO crier! I think I have seen him cry 5 times in the 30 years I have been with this man. He then spilled the beans about this severe pain in his shoulder. I got him dressed, into the car & off to the ER we went. We spent all night there…he has a torn rotator cuff in his shoulder. The ER doc was amazed that he tolerated this severe pain for 4 days before he couldn’t take it anymore. We now have an appt. with my ortho surgeon for early next week & hubbs is on some heavy duty meds until he can get in to see him.

So basically…Does your man try to be “tough” and hide physical pain from you or is he open about it? I knew when I saw him crying in pain last night that it was bad…BAD because he is not a complainer or a crier.