Good morning everyone! TGIF! Yay…the weekend is almost here! I am going to “lay low” for the weekend…at least that is the plan. I am hoping to get caught up on sleep, rest, relax and hopefully kick this infection to the curb. Got any plans?
Today’s Topic: I have a friend is going through a hard time right now within her marriage. Recently I learned about her hubby cheating on her (saw it with my own eyes) and I went over to see her and told her about it in private. Some people say I should of stayed out of it and kept my mouth shut but personally I feel I did the right thing. If my spouse was mis-behaving I would pray that one of my friends would step up and tell me about it. She totally believes me (Had a cell phone photo of him LOL) and she threw him out of the house. He wants to “work” things out w/her but told her she would have to end her friendship w/me due to me spying? WTH? Spying…really? Whatever. I don’t think she will fall for his BS though. Anyway, if you knew about someone who was cheating on one of your friends…would you tell him or her? (or) Would you just stay out of it?
We had a few giveaways close late last night so we do have winners to announce this morning. As always, we spend time every morning validating entries, trashing out the cheater entries and then randomly select a winner using random.org. We then double check that persons entry to make sure it’s legit and then finalize it.
Winner for the Flameless Candle Giveaway: Jill Myrick
Winner for the 3pack DVD Giveaway: Melinda Stephens
Congratulations to our winners! Have a great weekend and remember to check out our blog all weekend long as we will be publishing a few giveaways too!
If I were the one being cheated on, I would want my friend to tell me (or even if they saw something suspicious). Especially considering the health consequences you can suffer, not to mention everything else. It’s up to the spouse if they want to try to stay together. If shows the man has no remorse, that he wants her to additionally suffer the loss of a long-term good friend.
Thanks ladies for all of the awesome advice. Kay and I have been friends for over 20 years and I always knew her hubby was a snake in the grass. He cheated on her once before…a few months after they had gotten married. She forgave him then and they worked it out. Over the years there have been many rumors that he was cheating on & off but he always lied about it, etc. I just happened to be out doing a local review in our area and saw him kissing & hugging another girl…followed them down the mall and watched him “grab her butt”, walk hand in hand and more kissing. So, I knew what I was seeing was definitely cheating & I knew he lied before about things of this nature. I whipped out my cell phone and snapped a few photos of him in action. I then walked up to him, confronted him and walked away. He had 2 entire days to tell her himself & didn’t, so I did 🙂
Congrats to the winners!
It makes me chuckle to think of what phones can do nowadays. I think it depends on how close of friends you are with a person, but having photo proof is a good thing.
I agree with Eliza – I would give the cheating SOB a chance to make it right (whatever that would be in their circumstance) before I said anything to the wife. My dad cheated on my Mom, and everyone in town knew it before she (and we, the kids) did, so it was insult over injury when she finally did find out. I so wish someone had told her right away – my parents may have been able to work it out…
I would do the same thing,if my friend’s husband was cheating and I knew. To me if he really would to make things work between them,then ,that’s them and not you. She is your friend so he would just have to accept it!
If she was a close friend I would let her know. I would probably confront the cheater first and give them the opportunity to come clean before I stepped in. Hopefully your friend will get through this difficult time.
Congratulations to the 2 winners.
Since your friend is grateful to you I think you did the right thing. However, it would depend on how tight and sincere the friendship is between the 2 women. Each situation has to be judged separately. The fact that her husband is trying to blame you makes me think he is not very sincere.
I would since nobody told me. He didn’t even want to work things out so glad I eventually found out about it. Do unto others is my motto and I would want to be told. It’s dangerous out there too remember.
I don’t think there is a true guidebook-like abswer as to whether or not tell people things like that. It will always depend on how well you know the people, their relationship, how sure you are about what you have seen, etc….
I was cheated on once (that I know of) and I would not wish it on anybody else