I was lucky to be able to spend some time with my family over the holidays this year. While I planning to drive to my Dads and visit with everyone there, weather permitting, he fell ill and I had to fly there to take care of him in the hospital and at home recuperating. One bright note was that it was the 5th anniversary of my Mom’s death while I was there and together my Dad, my sister and I went to visit her at the National Cemetery. Since it was during the Christmas season, many of the headstones were decorated with beautiful wreaths that are donated to be displayed. There were a lot less than normal, but it still is a stunning display in real time.
The national cemetery is a beautiful place to visit and to contemplate. With time pain eases and it is easier to remember just the good things.
So Sorry for your losses, ladies. It is so sad that we live with holes in our hearts. I pray your heart heals and your sadness eases.
I have to agree with Vickie above this comment. I too, have a very difficult time and I cannot seem to take myself there. I lost my 18 year old brother, 2 years later, older brother and father (a week apart) then 2 years later my mom and I too, carry them in my heart but have such a difficult time. I guess we are all so different that way. My sister however, has to go to pay her visits since she lost her son and that for her, makes her feel so much better.
My folks both donated their bodies to science so there isn’t a place for me to visit, which is fine with me. I just keep them in my hearts.
No, my dad was in the service and they have a shared space in the columbarium. He is still with us tho. I just took a pic of the lawn because it was such a beautiful sight. They did have some wreaths along the walls of the columbarium.
It only gets easier because you know they are in a better place. Right after she passed, I was scared to go to visit because I thought I would break down and I did, at first. All of my other visits have been peaceful. I can talk to her and touch & kiss her plaque and know that she is close at that moment. My dad visits her all the time and that helps him too.
Im glad you got to go visit,,was she in the Service? My moms been gone now for over a year an I cant go ,it jsut tears me up too much an my little brother passed 11 month after she did an I cant go there either,,they are buried in the same place just different sides,does it ever get any easier?